Sunday, December 19, 2010

My Brush With Widowhood

We had a major scare for our family the other day, just before noon on a sunny winter day. Luckily everyone is 100% fine, so I can blog about it now.

DH was driving home to meet us for lunch (I generally work from home and don't have any more business for the year), when a woman in her car very suddenly pulled out in front of him without looking, and t-boned the front passenger side of his car. Our car is totaled, and will be in the shop for at least a month. No one was hurt - and that's what really matters! Cars can be fixed. The other driver admitted total fault. One of DH's fantasy football buddies, B, who we've had longstanding plans to get together with for their holiday Open House, was one of the police officers immediately on the scene. He drove DH home. B is a widower who remarried after his first wife was killed in a car accident at age 45.

When they arrived on our doorstep, I had a horrible flash of what it would have been like if DH had been hurt or worse, and B was the one who showed up on our doorstep to give me the news, with DS standing next to me and DD napping upstairs.

We are just so lucky that neither of the kids were in the car with him. The impact would have been on DS's side of the car. Oh, my heart hurts just thinking about it!

You believers out there, say your prayers tonight. The rest of us, hug your kids tight, because the simple fact that we're even alive and kicking right now means we are so lucky, I can't even fully comprehend it.


Melba said...

Well you know from the content on my blog these days that I TOTALLY get that "OMG I can't believe we are so lucky" feeling. Shit happens, and it has to happen to SOMEBODY, you know?

I'm so glad DH is ok and that the circumstances were that no one else was in the car, particularly your kids. Phew. Hugs.

caramama said...

So glad your DH was okay and that no one else was in the car! What is wrong with people?!?! Look before you pull out!

mom2boy said...

I'm so happy you and your family are okay. It is too awful to think about for long how everything can change in an instant. I am much more aware of this now that I have ever been before. I guess it's a product of my age and becoming a parent but it has helped me appreciate the moments more and pull myself out of a funk a lot more quickly when I realize all that I have that I'm taking for granted, my living breathing self for starters. I wish you and your family a very happy holiday spent together!!

Cloud said...

I'm glad DH is OK!

To quote a line from a Neil Finn song that I like: "There is nothing safe about this life."

I try to live my life with that in mind. I don't always succeed, but I try!

Jac. said...

I try to be grateful all the time (not always successfully). I recently read The Happiness Project which helped me reframe my thinking on a few of these issues. Now, instead of lamenting to my husband that I HAD to hold DD all night because she wouldn't sleep - I am thankful that I GET to hold DD all night. I know that this time is fleeting.

So happy your husband is okay. I've had two brushes with death in the last six months. If nothing else, it's good for getting the priorities straight.

blue said...

So glad all is well and no one was hurt, Hush!

@Jac, I was at a choral concert the other day and ended up spending half of it in the basement of a church because my two year old son wouldn't sit still or be quiet... I have, historically, been one to look at the negative and bitch about how I've been wronged. This particular time, however, I found myself listening to the holiday singers through the floor and thinking, "I am so thankful that I have this little healthy, rambunctious boy who I get to spend time with."

It doesn't always happen, but when it does, it's like a breath of fresh air.

Allie said...

Gosh what a scary situation! So glad your DH is okay.

Sometimes it's these moments that make us really realize how very lucky and blessed we are. I think things happen for a reason, and situations like this happen to help us remember what life's priorities are.

Hugs and happy holidays to you and your family!

Parisienne Mais Presque said...

I'm late to comment -- I'm finally regularly indulging in both reading blogs again and commenting -- and I'm relieved that your husband is OK, and can only imagine how terrifying that must have been.

Wishing you all a happy -- and safe and healthy -- new year.

hush said...

Thank you all so very much for your sweet comments. Happy New Year!!